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There are things you need to avoid, if you’re in a dating season right now and you’re hoping that the person you are with will get married to you. There are things you need to avoid otherwise you are going to ruin it

1. Don’t take the role of a partner before marriage

Don’t start saying “now I’m a wife, I’m a husband” and you start taking those roles even before you are married. There are people who will think now because “they’re wives”, they will start giving out children.

Is not time yet, others will start sleeping with this man. You’re not the wife yet . If you start doing these things as early as now and you’re in dating season, next thing this man will do, he will walk away this woman. And you will remain wondering what really happened.

2. Don’t introduce a partner if you’re not sure if he/she marry you

This is the biggest mistake people are doing just because you have met someone you’re getting pressure from home so you pick this person you rush them to your parents, yet you’re not 100% sure. If God has not 100% confirmed to you, don’t introduce them yet, some of you introducing them to your own children and now you are confusing them and then you have to go and apologize “I’m sorry uncle one left”. And you start even lying uncle one died and uncle one has gone out of the country and it’s just that you have been heartbroken. The two of you have separated so don’t rush this things.

3. Don’t be stingy

You can use resources in a nice way. Don’t overspend as well because remember they are observing how you act, they observing how you provide as a man so that they can confirm whether you’re the right quality of a partner they’re looking for so don’t start holding back saying you know I’ll do these things when we get married, but the same time don’t overspend use wisdom.

4. Never let them move in your home yet

Now a very big mistake so people moving in, And the two of you start living as husband and wife yet you are actually not married. This is where they start seeing your mistakes this is where my friend will start seeing your weakness and then you look lose to them you look easy to them and so they feel I actually made a mistake in being with this person because I got them so quickly into my house now let’s be careful because there are people who come into your house and they will take advantage of you especially women those who introducing men into their own house men come into your house they’re wearing boxers walking around you have children in the house and then things start happening in that house, you need to be very very careful.

5. Don’t start a business with them until you are married

You start making plans, you start doing things, you’re not married yet, and then the next thing you’ll realize is when he decides to walk away out of your life with all your money, all your intellect, everything you have saved. The next thing you will know now you’re left with literally nothing. So be patient, focus getting to know each other first.

Start working on a date, start saying for the next couple of months we are going to know each other towards a certain date. You don’t know each other yet so don’t jump in his bed without knowing where you’re heading. If you keep going anywhere, you land anywhere and the next thing you’ll realize is he used you and you will be shocked. Don’t give up too easy and too fast.

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