Online dating and first time meet

ABOUT ONLINE DATING AND MEETING FOR THE FIRST TIME IN A STATE YOU DON’T RESIDE IN…

Love is beautiful and it can happen anywhere. Over the years, people have found love in different places; from the conventional to the unconventional of places and ways. Social media is one of such inconventional places to find love. A social media platform like Facebook is awashed with people seeking for love. While it didn’t work out for many people, however, it worked for others.

Today’s article is not on debating whether or not social media love works or is right. There’s actually nothing wrong with dating online. However, the challenge of many is the adherence to some relationship rules.

Yesterday I told the single men who date ladies online not to ask ladies to travel to meet them in a different state, province, city or country where they reside for the first time. Here are the reasons.

1. The man is the one to make that first move:

Biblically and morally it’s the man’s duty to initiate such move first. He is the one to show how committed he is to that lady first. He should be doing some kind of chasing no matter how far or busy he thinks he is because he is the one dating that lady. Therefore it’s wrong for a lady to make such trip first.

2. You have not met physically yet:

It’s not advisable for a lady who met a man online only to travel to meet that man for the first time in different city. When traveling what reason will she give to her parents and siblings at home? Who will she say she is going meet? A man she hasn’t met yet? Which parents and siblings will be pleased to hear that?

3. It’s not safe:

These days not all we see on Facebook are real. Some Facebook accounts are not real. Some fraudsters, kidnappers, ritualists, rapists are on Facebook looking for preys. Asking a lady to travel in order to come see you in another city physically for the first time is insensitive and selfish on the part of any man. As a man or father, can you allow your daughter or sister to travel miles to go meet a man she has never met before in another state, city, province or country? Although many do it, however, it’s not right.

Here is how to go about a social media love relationship:

1. Start with friendship (discuss your interests. E.g: sports, politics, education, games, etc).

Discussing love at first sight online is immature and wrong. How could you be sure that the so called person you are talking to is a lover? Seven years ago I was in cybercafe where I saw a 23 year-old young man chatting with a white woman from the USA (she was in search for a lover). This young man had used a picture of a white man to deceive her, making her believe that he was a white expatriate working in Nigeria. The 51 year-old woman fell for it. She didn’t know that the person she was talking to wasn’t real.

2. If you wish to take the online relationship to the next level, meet physically first.

It’s unadvisable to propose marriage online to someone you haven’t met in person yet. Recently I was shocked to my marrow. I belong to many Facebook and WhatsApp groups. Among these groups, one is headed by a visually impaired lady. All these years of my interacting with her online as my mentee, I never knew she had that health condition until she told me recently. Although visually impaired, she is such a wonderful lady. Now imagine if was single and I had fallen in love with her, proposed to her online without meeting her physically, just for me to meet her and realize that she has that condition? What will happen to the relationship?

3. Ladies, don’t go meet a man that you are meeting for the first time in his house or hotel room.

The ideal place to meet for the first date is a public place like a restaurant, eatery, amusement park, cinema, public garden, etc. Meeting a man for the first time in his house or hotel room is wrong.

4. Men, you can’t be telling the lady to visit you in your house when you have not come to see where she and her family live first.

In conclusion, it’s not advisable for a lady to travel to another city or state to go meet a man she only met online. For moral and security reasons, it’s better the man does that. There’s a lot of evil and insecurity happening nowadays. Ladies, wise up! Men be sensitive and gentlemen enough not to ask for some things from ladies even if they don’t mind. Many thanks for reading, commenting, liking and sharing.

See you at the top! Coach Joshua. Photo credits: Facebook News Feed

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